The support and advice of parents, mentors and friends is precious, but life must draft reply, very particular personal characteristics of each adolescent.
The starting point
our life's story begins long before birth. Our parents received the news that there will be a new member to the family. At this moment the mind of mom and dad fly very far imagining how she or he. Then the rest of the family wants to participate in the planning of our future, commenting on what we do, the school where we or should we study the profession they should choose to be successful, and the riskier mention we should get married and have children, possibly twenty-five or thirty years.
Thus, it is easy to see why many scholars of human behavior believe that the expectations and wishes of the family influence, among other things, the future of individuals, because without doubt, each of us responds one way or another to these demands or pressures. The search for answers to questions like who want to be, how I want to be? Or what I want to be?, come to the fore. At birth, each person is immersed in a family situation and socio-cultural that influences their thinking, feeling and acting. Since children play with the idea of \u200b\u200bbecoming doctors, firemen, teachers, veterinarians. Sometimes we decide to dress to go to the park, with whom we play or what doll take a walk, decisions that at first glance may be insignificant, but which will eventually constitute a kind of training and reference point for proper decision decision situations and future circumstances.
The journey from adolescence
Adolescence is a very special period of life. We left the children to enter into adulthood. This period of transition is characterized by many as a time of change radicals and great challenges.
The search for answers to questions like who want to be, how I want to be? Or what I want to be?, come to the fore. The children's ideas run into head-on with new priorities and expectations.
project decisions and find fertile ground in the stage of life they are teenagers. It is common to hear young people talk about what they want to be or want to achieve in different areas of your life. Goals and finish school, gain entry to university, travel and get a good job, often occupy privileged places in the list of the dreams of many young people.
A
life project
Teens need an engine that drives towards achieving those goals, as well as the emotions can be fleeting. Your dreams should be accompanied by a guide about what they want to accomplish and how they can get. This is very useful to have a life plan or project.
The life project can be understood as an outline of our goals, with the steps we take now in order to achieve them. This scheme facilitates the achievement of these goals because we can have a clearer picture of the things we do to achieve our goals.
often the adolescents have in mind what they want become, however sometimes these projects respond to children's desires or expectations of the family. For this reason, it is important that young people take time to learn about their interests, capabilities and limitations, so that they themselves who choose their goals and are personally convinced of wanting to achieve.
The support and advice of parents, mentors and friends is precious, but life must draft reply, very particular personal characteristics of each adolescent. It is for this reason that the discussions and conclusions about what you want to achieve in life, and how to do it, either your own design youth. Each project is unique and special life, as each individual is. It is important that young people take time to learn about their interests, capabilities and limitations. It is essential that every young person should be set clear goals and define steps to be followed to achieve them. It is also necessary motivation to succeed and a healthy learning attitude to every experience. Listen to the opinion of others, mainly those who love you, will assess the circumstances of a more realistic and objective, and make necessary adjustments to move forward.
Getting goals is a real challenge to every teenager, because it requires time, effort and dedication. Furthermore, in the way adversity may occur, which could change the course of things. Most importantly, therefore, to cultivate an entrepreneurial spirit that motivates us to continue the journey. Be clear about where we are going and how we will get there, we can make good decisions to achieve and persevere. If they feel insecure or no direction, they can seek advice from people you trust or a professional who can guide them.
Here are some tips for the approach of a project of life during adolescence:
- The project of life of each individual is unique as it responds to individual needs. It is convenient family members, mentors, friends and others to provide advice and assessments, but must be the individual, ultimately that will decide their future.
- The project of life is not static, can be adjusted and changed according to circumstances, situations or changes that occur in the road.
- not pretend to solve our life from now. Surely we can define with relative ease and concretely the most immediate and general goals, such as school performance, recreational, filial relations and friendship, and so on.
- The objectives of greater importance must be weighed carefully, ie, those broad guidelines that will define the course of life, such as the choice of the partner with whom you share life, career choices, raising children .... It is important to note that the final decisions of the majority of these targets belong to later stages of life, even when we can go from paving the way for when that time comes.
The author is a psychologist for Focus on the Family (www.enfoquealafamilia.com) in Costa Rica. © Copyright 2009 all rights reserved. Teen Angeles
